Friday, May 13, 2011

In Heaven, Will My Husband Even Know Me?

I was recently visiting with a newly grieved Christian lady who was very concerned about the future.  She asked, "Will my Husband even know me since there is no marriage in heaven?"

Different forms of this same question are often asked by bereaving Husbands and Wives after the loss of their companion.

I know that there are all sorts of beliefs about Heaven.  Some think that we will no longer know each other, or we will be zombies marching in perfect unison, constantly  praising and singing, and nothing more.  There are many Scriptures that say just the opposite.  There will be adventures, ministry, fellowship, worship, and many thrilling episodes that will cause great joy and celebration.

When we consider this question from a logical perspective, we begin to realize that relationships don't just abruptly stop at Heaven's door.  

Admittedly, there will not be marriages in Heaven (we have Jesus' word on that), this doesn't mean that our relationships cease.  I explained to this wonderful Christian lady that whatever her relationship with her husband was like on earth will be far greater in Heaven!  You will still know who your Spouse was, will still love them, and I'm sure still want to spend time with them.  But now your love will be more pure.  Your body and soul will no longer be tainted by sin.  Your attitudes will be more holy.

To me, the best part about Heaven is that our Father, the Holy Spirit, and Jesus will literally be our neighbors.  The book of Revelation says that He will "now dwell with man" on this "New Heaven," and "New Earth."

If you think there is no greater love than what you feel for your Spouse, you're wrong.  I know that we love Jesus now, but our future "love experience" with the Lord will so far surpass anything we've ever felt before.  Fortunately, our new bodies will be able to handle the new intense emotional joys that we'll feel then.

13 comments:

  1. I am grieving over my husband's death, and I wish he could come back to me here because I don't want to wait so long to see him again.
    Will I see him? In what form? Please tell me, I am crying all the time. thank you.

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    1. Hello, my Husband passed away on 2-14-2013, Valentine's Day which was also our Wedding Anniversary...although I can't tell you in what form you will see him he is around you. My Husband sends me little signs, feathers, butterflies, sometimes his name (which was a little unusual) will appear on billboards or different types of advertisement as I am thinking about him. I know it is his way of saying he is still there. My condolences go out, and my prayers are with you. Yes, I am still, and always will be, greiving as well. rek

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    2. I lost my husband in march and I feel so alone and lost without him. People say with time, it will get better. For me, it hasn't. I keep hoping I will see him someday. I wish I could have him back. I cry all the time too and I'm scared. I never felt this bad in my life.

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    3. I feel for you I just lost my husband a few months ago and I miss him terribly and cry all the time

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  2. does my husband love me now that he is in heaven

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    1. Yes, even more than when he was on earth, he is no longer limited with human emotions....

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  3. I am 23 years old my boyfriend is now at home with the lord although i miss him so much i love him way more i want nothing but great things for him i want him to have the highest happiness and heaven is exactly that and more thats what comforts me and also knowing he has eternal life will never die nor feel pain again he lives forever now and we will see each other again that also helps me stay close to god

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  4. No words will ever explain how much i miss the love of my life. I do believe he is near , i feel his presence and he does send me signs. It still feels like yesterday. He passed march 8th after being on life support.8 days. Honestly deep down in my heart i believe he tried to prepare me for his early departer. He would tell me.every so often he was dying and it wouldn't be long. It always hurt to hear that. 24yrs old. I just thank God for allowing.us to spend almost 10 wonderful years together with the love we shared. Just needed.to let some of what i feel out.

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  5. I lost my wife of almost 17 years.I am so lost with out her here.I so want to join her up in heaven and can not wait to see her again.She went to heaven on January 19 2014.I cry almost ever day but I talk to god more now than ever before and I talk to my wife a lot too.I miss her so much.

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  6. Anonymous April 21, 2014

    I lost my husband Dec 21, 2013 after 41 years of marriage and knowing him for 45 years. I also feel lost and alone. I still cry. I still talk to him and to his pictures. I also pray more now and wish I could have him back. It was sudden, too soon, too
    close to the holiday and no warning. Sudden cardiac arrest after spending a great
    day together and going out to dinner and joking and laughing. He was my soul mate, my partner, my better half, my husband, the love of my life. I too don't think
    it will get better with time. We will see. The loss of a loved one especially a spouse is a very traumatic experience and one that is very hard to get over if ever.

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  7. I lost my husband he was 29 and I am 27 we have three small daughters together and were together since we were 15 and 17 we had rough times and soemtimes we didnt get along or see eye to eye and hurt each other. Do you think he forgives me and still has hurt for me or does he still love me from heaven can he see me can he hear me and his family here on earth ? I wonder sometimes if we still go to heaven if we do things that are not that good to people we love ? Can someone help me understand what I am feeling and were do I go from here ? He died April 6th 2014 in a terrible car accident .

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  8. My wife went to the Lord 4 years ago now. We were married for 44 years and we became one during our time together. Since she has gone it took more than half of me too. I know there is heaven and I believe in the promise from Jesus that we will be together again, knowing this gives me some comfort but the pain is deep. I have my children around me all the time but I am so lonely without her, words just can't describe the depth of pain I have. I guess the Lord has some special tasks I need to do before I can be with her again. Jesus would not allow such grief and pain unless there was a very good reason. I do the best I can to accomplish the tasks he has set before me, always hoping that this task is the last one, so I can join her. As each day comes to an end, I at least know I'm one day closer to being with her.

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  9. I miss my husband so much. Both of us had failed marriage and then I met my soul mate and now he is gone. March 12, 2013 he was diagnosed with MDS. My husband who was never sick had cancer. The only cure was a bone marrow transplant. Ninety days out he was 100% cancer free and 99% donor. He had issues starting with skin GVHD and then he developed ocular GVHD. By October he was blind but we had hopes of vision correction through surgery. In January he developed a lung infection. It was determined he was proceeding into lung GVHD. He kept getting lung infections one after the other. He kept telling me he was fighting to spend one more day with me. He passed away at the end of May. Half of me is gone. How can life be this cruel? My heart is breaking so much and I don't know how I am going to make it through this.

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